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We have had a party for my husbands 40th birthday some months ago. All started friendly but must have run out of control aome kind. When I got tired I looked after our daughters (8 and 10) and the layed down to sleep. I was awakened near morning by our oldest. she was standing in front of my bed looking sullied from head to toe. she was crying and told me she woke up that way, she did not have blankets covering her and her top was pulled up to her neck. I must not take a more accurate look. I have see at once, that what she had on her face, in her hair and on her body was semen, sperm. Some dried, some not. I wekt with her over in her room and her little sister looked the same. It must have been the "Friends" of my husband. Something must have gone out of control!

I don't like to see anyone passed out from too much alcohol. A friend of mine vomited and choked to death when in the next room were several people partying it up. Such a senseless death.

Two years ago at a forth of July party I was slipped something in my drink and 8 guys had their way with me several times over and video taped it not showing any of the guy's faces but mine a lot. DNA was taken at the hospital and two guys had distinct tattoos and one I have seen before and the police is looking for him, I think he got wind of it and skipped town for none of his so called friend are saying anything.
I spent 9 days in the hospital because of them and I hope all of them get sent up for a long long time.

We had huge, blowout parties years ago, and, my hot older sister was always the target of guys. They'd grab her, grope her, spill beer on her ass and say "let me get that for you", toss her into the pool so she'd get out with a wet t-shirt..Just all over her. She handled it well, expected it, but sometimes would drink to the point of either passing out or finding a spot to hide and sleep it off, usually in our finished basement.

One party, I noticed she'd gone downstairs, but hadn't seen her in awhile (was a bit drunk, myself, and two of my female friends visited, taking up some time). When I finally went to the basement to check on her, there she was, naked in the chair with her legs open on the ottoman, and a mess on her thighs and stomach. A real, full spew mess. Someone also left a bit on the pool table.

I covered her up and waited for her to wake up, which took a few hours. When she came back upstairs and I was cleaning up, she was hung over and said didn't even remember going downstairs last night, and that some guy or guys "unloaded on her, bad" so was going to take a shower. Strange as it was, I couldn't figure out who would have done it/her, since so many guys during the night were pawing at her, but have to admit..The idea actually did get me revved-up for her.. Never did find out who or how many unleashed on her body, or probably drunk-fucked her..Just thinking about it is hot..

It is a bid deal. Someone disgraced & disrespected your wife and you. I wouldn't have any more drunk parties and realize alcohol was the reason it happened. You can remember and that means whoever did it remembers and knew what they were doing. Maybe your wife is doing one of them behind your back? Don't even go into the part that it made you hard because that will lead down a road that will destroy your marriage. Your wife will leave or you will become jealous after being fine with it beforehand. Are you watching porn? That may be why you are thinking in a horrible wrong way. Porn makes you do things that you wished you hadn't. I've seen many posts on here from people who wished they had never allowed their spouse to sleep with another or that they themselves found out the hard way how cheating can ruin your lives. Clean up your lives. There is nothing fun/sexy about someone disrespecting your wife and performing a sexual act against her against her will and that is exactly what happened.

We talked about what had happened again and my wife feels like it's no big deal and doesn't want me to keep stressing on it.

My best friend's wife could never handle alcohol , no matter what the occasion if there was anything to drink she would go at it to the point of blacking out. On more than one occasion she would get drunk and start flirting with guys at the party and sure enough before the night was over she would be found in a bedroom, basement ,office and even a garage one night, passed out half naked with cum on her face , tits or pussy. At one work event , my wife came to get me after seeing three guys with his wife going out to the warehouse, my best friend had asks us to take care of her as he wasn't able to attend, By the time we found her it was clear they had a good time with her. My wife surprised me , when while we were get my friends wife together she told me this is why she only ever has two glasses of wine , she didn't like waking up with cum all over her and not knowing who it belonged too. I have to admit that night while fucking my wife I couldn't get the thought of her being fucked and covered in cum by a group of horny guys while she was passed out drunk out of my mind, The thought had me incredibly turned on, and I have used it to fuel a few jerk off sessions as well.

STDs are fun too. Oral can produce them as one man on here found out. Nothing to get turned on about; it is nasty and rude.

I was at a party this past Halloween and opened the wrong door to a scene of four or five guys taking on a very drunk girl. She seemed very into it and even invited me in. I passed and went on to find the right room where my coat was. The next afternoon the cops stopped by my condo and told me a woman had reported being raped at the party I attended and asked if I had seen anything. I told them what I had seen, and also thanked my lucky stars that none of my DNA was going to be found on that poor girl.

Something to remember every time a woman hits on you. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. I proud that you didn't and I hope that this is eye opening for you and the kind of people you are hanging around and drinking in general. Drinking ruins a bunch of lives from rape to killing people with your car to getting STDs and doing things you can't take back.

While I'm glad for you that you passed on adding your dna to this girls little party, please don't fall into the bs that she was a victim. She knew what she was doing just by the fact SHE invited you to join in. It sounds like it was "rape" after the realization hit her that she acted like a total whore and fucked five guys at a party. Saying she was drunk and they took advantage of her is much easier than taking any responsibility for her own actions.

Lmao why are people sleeping at a party?! What kind of high school parties are you attending?! Go home! And go to grown up parties!

Wasn't high school we are older then you think, we power drank,played darts,pool and 456

Does it really matter? Just play it off like you thought it was hilarious, or mention how hot you thought it was. Better yet, say how impressed you were by how big the load was, pride will surely draw out the culprit.

If a woman gets drunk enough to pass out at a party she should expect this to happen. Not saying it's okay to do this to a woman, but it does and likely will happen. The fact that it turned you on is actually not surprising, a lot of men secretely desire for other men to desire their wives and do nasty things to her. Let this be a lesson and just be thankful that she wasn't raped in the ass while she was out.

I have thought about that constantly

If you thought about it then do something about it. Get away from these friends, who are abusers, and concentrate on family instead and make plans with your and your wife's families. Another man on here had the same thing kind of happen, but he ended up watching his wife have sex with someone else. As one poster said you are responsible for drinking too much and you need to talk to your wife and agree to two only or think about quitting. HELLO, THIS IS A WAKEUP CALL; DON'T IGNORE IT. NEXT TIME MAY BE TOO LATE.