My wife is not happy with our sex life

Everyone is different how they think how they fuck unless your from a open family teaching sexual techniques you learned like me as you go. We all respond differently to different things obviously your wife liked this guys ways of having sex. So for me it would be like ok sit back watch and take mental notes how your wife likes being fucked. No worries just have fun and learn in the process you can up the game later. She likes it rough just go a bit rougher it should be fun good luck

Dude, your wife isn't satisfied with you and is still dreaming of sex with her ex. You need to nip that shit in the bud of he's going to be banging her behind your back (may be already as others have stated). My thought - give her what she used to get from her ex.

I do. Just obviously not at the extreme level he did. We do have kinkiy rough sex, but she wants it the way he did and wont even give me a chance or talk to me abut it. She thinks the only way i can "experience" this is to watch her with this guy.

Honey, just ask yourself one thing.... do you really want your wife to be happy?? if yes then you should not think abt it now coz you never know she is blowing that guy anyway... but the fact that she wants to bring that out in open so that you could also take pleasure out of it should really do for you.. coz you love your wife and you are doing it for her right???? trust me this is going to spice up ur bedroom atmosphere.... talking from experience here... if we women are satisfied in our own ways and if you really support us going out of way... we can blow you all day :P

Lots of love..
Rupali :)

Experience? You have done something like this before? I love watching stuff like this in porn movies, but im not sure what it would do for me in reality. Watching my wife get fucked to the point where she is in half pleasure half pain and being called degrading things? I can just imagine what that would be like watching and what it would leave in my head. Im a fit attractive guy and horny as anyone. She should come to me first with her concerns, not tell me the only way to fix it is to watch her pussy get destroyed.

It seems like you are not listening to what people are telling you or you don't accept reality.
She is already fucking this guy behind your back that's why she is so bound and determined to get you to agree it is to be with him.
Why don't you take your sex to a new level with your wife by coming home one evening litterly throw her on your bed rip the clothes off of her and fuck her hard and give her a damn good spanking for even thinking about fucking her X of all things.

Our sex already IS at a level that has satisfied both of us. We never have been bored or anything with our sex life. And I would love to do things like what you said, and already do to some degree. By this guy was an extreme with her. If thats what she wants she should have come to me to talk about if first. In OR out of bed. Right away the "memory" pops into her head and she has to throw it out as the only option.

Sadly you know the truth but you just want to hear it from others. Let me tell you from a woman's point of view. She has already discussed this with the ex and has been for sometime. You are clearly unsettled by it so the important thing is to have you believe this journey is about us and respecting your emotions so you need to be told there's no contact at all.

Now! the truth is it's about her getting the sex that you can't give her. This is all about her. As a woman we just need to tell a few fibs to make you think it's about us as a team.

She has great sex with a man she dearly desires whilst you sit around and watch.. Yeah! it's all about you also...LOL

Hey, thanks for the reply. Over the last week i have kind had exactly what you said pretty much settle in my head. It started out as a"Is this really happening to me?" thing, and now after reading post replies, I see other angles. Not that they werent in my head anyway, but it was spinning at first. She wants this type of sex, but doesnt seem to want the "learning curve". Im a fit attractive guy with a high sex drive. We satisfy each other. But this guy was an extreme, and this is her pussy talking unfortunately.

Well let her have it if she needs it... she has thoughts of it anyway.. which is equally detrimental my love...

Rupali..

Then sadly you will be left broken hearted. Might be time to man up and think of yourself.
A woman never confronts a partner unless she is comfortable with it. What i mean is she has been sleeping with other men or even him for sometime to the point where she is comfortable to bring it to you. Fortunately for most men they just don't want to believe it so as women we have that advantage. I did have a giggle though when i read you believe she has not been in touch with him and how you believe it's just a once off. After the deed is done, a wife is marvelous at playing on a hubby's vulnerabilities and convincing them it was great for them also and it needs to continue LOL. .....I'm sorry! i just can't help laugh. your being played for such an obvious fool and you seem like a nice genuine guy.

Yeah, im a "good" guy, but that doesnt mean i cant satisfy her if she wants to go to new levels. This is my anger with all this. Im a fit attractive guy who is as horny as anyone on this earth. Open for anything. Why do she feel like i need to watch her get her brains fucked out to understand what she needs? She should have came to me first. If i sat throught that, what the hell wouldi have see? I could only imagine.

Your replies are funny. You never seem to address the points i make.
This is like a TV series finale cliffhanger. I can't wait for the next installment.
Has she given you a deadline for a yes? Although we know she's in touch with him When will you think she will get in touch with him? Is the clock ticking here?

Since she already knew of someone, he is already fucking her on the side.

I dont know about that. We have a good marriage. This is a "new level" experiment for her. If she wanted him full time she should tell me and divirce.

Suggest another man. Never go there with a ex. If she's not keen, then I think she could already be up to no good with him. :-( good luck.

That sounds "fair" for both, but im not into anything like this to begin with. My wife wants me to watch this with him just once because she says it will take our sex life to a new level. Our sex is good, but this guy really gave it to her and degraded her. She wants that from me. Its her style. She says watching him do it to her will make ME on that level. I told her 'Why cant we watch rough porn?" Its very frustrating.

Hmm ok what about this. Say yes, but not with the ex boyfriend. Tell her you two can find someone together and get to know him. ALSO...you should insist on including another woman as well. Seriously. If she wants a new level....including a man and a woman is a new level.

Sorry i replied in a separate comment. See above.

Don't be an idiot. Tell her no and see her reaction. That will tell you if she's already fooling around or is about to.

It was my first reaction, but i dont want her to get angry and rebel and go do something behind my back. She doesnt want to divorce, she just want this level of sex, and according to her, this "mutual' friend of ours seems like the guy to do it. We know him, and he fucked her very hard years back.

My wife just fell asleep and we did have another chat in bed about an hour ago. I started right off by telling her “Before we talk, be honest with me about one thing. Did you talk to him about this yet?” She came right out and said absolutely not. So thats good, I’m taking her word for it. She then started telling me she knows how i feel about her asking me to watch this, but really wants me to try and understand that what this will do to me and our sex life will be amazing. I told her “Why can’t we watch some degrading porn or something?” She said its not the same. I can really tell she is upset about this and doesn’t want our marriage to end, but her need for this level of sex from me is very high. I told her "You know me, I LOVE sex and will do anything. Lets get there ourselves!” She got a little teary eyes and just said “You don’t understand. I have heard of couples doing this and it did wonders for their sex lives. There is trust with us. Its not a threesome. We know him and I know he will keep this between the three of us. I want you to see me get taken and degraded by him. You will be excited and really see what we can be. Just sit and watch, thats all. It will excite you.” Now i was happy to see her concern for us and our marriage, but she still showed no signs of letting it go. :(

If my wife would agree to this, I'd jump on board so quickly, it would make me cum automatically. I would love to share my wife and watch the action while I jack off, mmmmmmm

If you knew the sex they had it may scare you. He really degraded her and gave it to her hard. You could watch that? Her friend nce told me he blindfolded her, fucked her roughly from behind, and a friend of his was in the room and she didnt know. He slid his cck in her mouth and she was nervous bust she went with it. I dont think i can ever match this guy. :(

Does he do stuff that you are opposed to? Or do you fear you cannot match his performance? Is this particular guy really hung well? That is, is he a lot bigger than normal, is he bigger than you? Do you fear she wants him because of that?
I am just trying to get a better handle on the situation. If she just wants you to see the kind of sex she misses, and wants you to learn to do the things she likes, I can understand her request. But isn't there another way for you to find out what it is she likes without bringing this guy to your bed?
I am wondering whether this is about teaching you what she likes or if it is about something else.
Does she want to start swinging? Has she ever indicated she would like that?
Does this guy's wife know about what she wants to do? Is she OK with it?

I'm not opposed to anything. My wife knows t his. But i really get the feeling that she is asking because when i say "i can give you degrading rough sex" she doesnt think I understand. This guy really gave it to her good from what she said and wants me to see it so i ca "see" how she wants it. I am not into the threesome thing at all to begin with. BUT, if she reallyw anted i MAY consider a stranger. But not this guy, simply because we know him and he really treated her like a trashy whore in bed. I want her to experiment with ME on this. Were not into swinging, she for some reason has her mind set that this will improve our sex life, as she has read and heard these experiences do.

If it is really consensual, then you can say no and she should agree with you. If you say no and she wants to do it anyway, then she is doing this for herself, not for the both of you.

She says she wants to do it take our sex life to a "new level". She was with him for two years before me and he degraded are and was rough wit her. We are kinky with each other, but she is suggestion this "one time experience" will make me see what she really wants. Im really thrown for a loop with this.

Seriously ? She is already fucking him! The " new level" is bringing him into your bed to have him fuck her in front of you and humiliate you.They have probably been talking about it during sex and now they want to make it a reality If you agree to this you are a fool . Hire a private detective to get the evidence needed for your soon to be pending divorce.

That thought kills me. I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt being our marriage is good. But you never know these days. Im gonna give her a few days to consider a sex therapist.