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I have never cheated on anybody I've been in a relationship with, but a number of times I have slept with guys that have girlfriends or are married. I first started to sleep with my friends bf, he invited me over to his house late at night and one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. I ended up starting to feel a little concerned, because I would be hanging out with my friend and not care that I just fucked her bf. So I talked to a psychologist he told me that I was a sociopath and that I couldn't really feel empathy or remorse for what I did. I care about my friend but for some reason I don't really feel bad about what I did. Since then I've slept with a couple more people that were in relationships, and now my sister's husband has been hitting on me. One night at a family get-together I caught him checking me out he kept on staring at my ass, afterwards he invited me to come over when my sister wasn't around. I would like to sleep with him and I know that if I did I wouldn't feel empathy or sorry for what I did, but I don't think I could do that to her. My sister is one of the most important people to me, if she found out even though I wouldn't feel anything for what I did she would still be devastated and hurt and I don't think I could do that to her.
There exists, at least, a shred of decency and empathy in you so you are not the sociopath the psychologist said you were. Certainly not to the degree the psych mentioned. There is hope for you. Keep the therapy/counselling going and if need be avoid getting in situations that lead to fucking around with married or taken guys. You don't say how close you are to your sister but you should bond with her more but avoid her husband. Talk to the psychologist or other therapist about it but ask if they think you should tell your sister that her husband has been hitting on you and actually propositioned you to come over when she wasn't home. I'd think she has a right to know, especially from her own sister. Do the right thing.
The fact that you recognize that she would feel pain and that causes you to want to avoid the behavior means that you have some empathy. You are far better off than those people who have no empathy at all.
That is correct. You are probably not a sociopath.
Only way you'll find out how shit it feels to get cheated on is when you yourself gets cheated on by your future bf or husband. Then you'll understand. Some people learn best through first hand experience i.e you.
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