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Your husband is likely a porn addict and needs help. Abstinence and therapy would help, so push that on him and insist on it. If you love your husband and want to stay with him, stop playing around immediately. It's only a matter of time before he finds out. Men are very territorial, so if you want to stay married, it's best not to tell him the truth. Even if he stays with you, he'll never get the thought out of his head of other men piping down his wife...it's very different when the tables are turned..it doesn't hurt women on the same visceral level.

So many judgmental people. You had fun—it’s hard to find joy in this world so I say keep doing it. It doesn’t sound like your marriage is on the rocks, otherwise I’d say get a divorce. This is just some fun on the side. Enjoy it!

NO, it isn't normal that your sex drive has gone to zero; it is part your fault. I've been married over 25yrs. and my husband and I still act like we did when we were young. Do you perform oral on him; give him anal; try to get him to have sex when you know he is looking at porn. You are the problem. No man is going to refuse a wife who will give him those things; you are just lazy and want to cheat.

You are an adulterer and you should've never given out your number or went over there. You knew what was going to happen and you are just another loser cheater. He deserves someone who is faithful to spend his short life with. How horrible for him to try to make a living and you getting all diseased up behind his back. You think he won't find out, but Karma has a way of getting back at you. You won't be healthy forever and there will come a day that you will get yours.

Only you can answer that question, because you know him best. How he reacts will greatly depend on your relationship with him, and how open he is to sex. No one here can tell you that but you. At any rate, there is no need to tell him everything at once. Warm him up to sexier things first, to let him know you've been wanting to improve sex between you two. You can gradually suggest different things to him, and when you feel he's ready, you can tell him. If he's resistant, perhaps it might be a good idea to keep your sex party to yourself.

If you don't tell him, life goes on, everyone is happy. If you are invited again some time then ask him about it first. If you tell him what you did then it's pretty much guaranteed that he will leave you so...I wouldn't do that.

I think you are messing it all up in your mind. Understand this dear, love and lust are not one n d same... You love your husband and your heart belongs to him. As long as you don't attach yourself romantically or emotionally to anyone in these parties, you need not think much about it. These parties are like stressbusters and mere fun- like a holiday. Enjoy your parties and do not take anything that happens there to heart. Your husband too may be having his parties too for all you know :)

If you want to cause pain,distrust and possibly end your marriage then by all means tell him. If I were you I'd keep it a big secret and if you want to meet up with these people do it very discretely. when I caught my wife cheating I was devistated,our marriage wasn't the same or good. It ended a few years later because I could never trust her again.

Find a safe way to tell him. Start my making comments on swinging and see how he reacts. Tell him you have a friend of a friend of a friend who let 2 men fuck her back in high school (or collage) and see how he reacts. If he seems to like it then your in. If he reacts badly then you can back out by saying you agree its not right. Then keep brining it up until either he reacts very VERY strongly that he thinks it wrong or he finally admits to you that it turns him on.

What do you think he is masterbating to? Probably group sex or swinging or something like that and its probably about him sharing you with other men. He's only too scared to tell you. That's a common fantasy for husbands.

In the 2nd year of my marriage I began sharing my wife. We are celebrating our 10th year of marriage this year. I have orchestrated her being the center of 50 men (sex club) groups taking turns feeling and groping her then the sex - my wife bent over sucking 1 while getting fucked by another - and a line at both ends. The sex has never been better. We have strict rules we follow to keep things safe - safe from STD's and safe for our relationship. We are both over 50 and at this point in our lives we have gotten pretty board with the 1 on 1 missionary position.

If you want further advice on getting your hubby to swing you can email me at JohnSW6969@gmail.com

You know when I enjoy my hand more than my woman? when all the woman does is lay there.

You sound like a boring lay, and your hubby would rather jerk off than have to put up with your starfish position.

I like how typical you are, blaming the man, when it's probably you who is not sexual. But like a typical white woman, you are more than happy to fuck any other guy but your husband.

Need to listen to him/her they are right. Just a cheater looking to lay anyone but the man you made a commitment to. Warped mind.

Perhaps approach it by telling him you have been invited to a swinging party and ask if he wants to go.

Let sleeping dogs lie........ssssssshhhhhhhh. He's under enough stress over there......you don't know what he'll do if you tell him.....most likely something ................he needs support and love like all returning vets do..I know you have needs......but he doesn't need to hear this ....,,

...but I am not sure what stress he is under.... he seems to enjoy his "hand" a lot..... I am not sure.

Yes, it's always better to be honest!