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Cheated before wedding
I cheated on my fiance at my bachelorette party. I know people say this is your last night of freedom but I feel terrible now. I wont go into graphic detail but we had a stripper like so many bachelorette parties do in our hotel room. He took off his clothes and most of my friends and I rubbed lotion all over his body and stroked his dick. He also took off my clothes and gave me oral sex in front of them and afterwards we took a shower together. In the shower, we made out and I gave him a blowjob to completion. We did not have sex but I still feel terrible about how I acted. Should I tell my husband or just let it go as a one night thing?
Do NOT tell him. You already know you shouldn't have done it and you wish you hadn't, but what's done is done and you have your whole future ahead of you. Don't let one mistake screw everything up because even if he forgives you, it will always be there. Once that genie is out of the bottle, you aint putting it back in. Get on with your lives and chalk it up to a lesson learned.
I'm sorry to say but yes I would tell him and just face the consequences and if you have kids kids come first before yourself I know people are not going to like what I just said take care of yourself
*DO*NOT* tell your husband about your activities! The terrible feeling you have is your punishment for what you did. If you tell him you will make him feel terrible too, but you won't feel any better. And it might end your marriage!
YES you should tell him, yes it is cheating.
You have to ask yourself - do you want a relationship based on honest and openness, or based on mistrust and lies? If he can't trust you, can you trust him? It's going to hurt, but you need to accept the consequences of what you did in order to fully learn from it.
Plus, what is he going to think if someone else tells him and you've been swearing that nothing happened?
Bachelor/bachelorette parties are stupid activities with too much drinking and too many regrets. I wouldn't want to know if my husband did anything he regretted. It's different if it's at any other point in their married life. If somebody's cheating, they need to be honest so the other person is free to make their choices too. By getting it out there, you can both decide if you want to end it or move forward, either putting it behind you or working out the problems that made it happen. But NO, people should not share anything about their past BEFORE their marriages. We all had lives before that have no impact on the current relationship. And, again, the pre-wedding party nights are just stupid and asking for trouble.
Honey, that's not cheating. Stop fretting. I have had sex with men other than my hubby. Now THAT is cheating. BTW, I love cheating. It's the best. Relax, maybe you should try it for real sometime.
No, it is cheating, several times over. Every minute of everyday you’ve been with your husband is a lie. You need to fess up and accept the consequences.
What are you, a nun? People make mistakes and she already regrets it terribly. There's no further lesson to be learned and all that could result is ruining both their lives. Close that door, move on.
And catch HIV