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What do I do
My boyfriend and I broke up after four years. 2 months later we meet up for coffee and everything rules, our problems seem fixed and we kiss and fool around. Problem is, he has a girlfriend, (didn't take him long) all I want is to start over and give our relationship another try. I mean why not, we still love each other, our initial problems have solved themselves, but he won't leave his girlfriend. She lives states away and he's only seen her 2 weekends but I just don't understand. This isn't a sidepiece situation either, he genuinely cares for me and I just can't wrap my head around it. Our last phone call he said he wanted to put distance between this and I just can't help but feel rejected and heartbroken all over again. Part of me really wants to tell his girlfriend what's been going on because this is all unfair to her, I know he won't say anything to her. What do I do. I've tried so hard letting go of him and nothing seems to work. I'm the sad weirdo that just wants to wake up next to him again and he isn't letting his guard down. He'll sext me and send me dick pics, will admit to loving me, but won't be with me. I can't help but feel rejected and awful. All of this anxiety is making me sick, I'm nauseous all the time, I'm not sleeping right, I'm not eating right. I just can't shake him out of my life.
Your feelings are borne out of the issue.
He does not love you... Enough.
Dump him. Find another. You'll eventually feel much better. I've been that guy.
Basic question - if he loved you, would he be treating you like this? He has a girlfriend who is long distance, and he's hooking up with a woman he knows he enjoys fooling around with whilst she's away.
Aside from the issue of whether you could ever trust him knowing that he's happy to cheat on his girlfriend, again - if he really loved you, would he be treating you like this? If so he'd have dumped her and gone back to you, but he hasn't and he won't.
It's tough, I know, I recently broke up with my ex of 5 years. But it gets better, it really does. :-)