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How do I get my sister to stop
I had to move in with my sister after a nasty divorce. My sister was glad to have me in the house because she said she just kicked out another boyfriend and couldn't afford to pay the rent herself. From the second I moved in she was being way too clingy and treated me like a boyfriend, even asking me to sleep with her because she liked feeling someone next to her. She sleeps in the nude, or at least she has since I moved in.
I'm going to be here at least until after the new year when I've saved up enough money to move. I'm uncomfortable with all the attention she is giving me. I've talked to her but she just tells me she is happy to see me again.
For a little background my sister and I were abused by our parents and when we were young we found the only way to cope emotionally and physically was through each other. This support went further than a brother sister relationship should ever go. Neither of us has ever had a successful relationship but we have always been there for each others support. When I moved out to go to college she freaked out from being left at home alone with our mom and dad. I took her away from home and she lived with me until she finished high school. Since I was in college I was able to get us both some therapy and it seemed to help us both.
After she graduated high school I helped her go to college in another state. For those two years we were pretty normal but then after she got her degree she wanted to move back in with me and I had to say no (I was dating the woman who just divorced me at the time.) You can probably guess that my relationship with my sister was a major cause of my marriage breaking apart.
We've both been to counseling but she seems to have reverted back to when we were teens living with our parents. How do I get her to stop wanting to treat me like a boyfriend and like a brother?
For the pervs out there, yes I am sexually attracted to her...I've just learned to deal with it. Yes she is very sexually charged but I am keeping it in my pants.
She's got a vagina and you've got a pecker, what's the problem? To many people worry about things being "taboo", and sinful and wrong. Just go for it. Fuck the living shit out of your sister if she wants it. If you are both adults there is nothing wrong with it. Don't listen to all the BS about genetic freak incest babies either. There are plenty of sibling parents with perfectly normal children running around this world.
Go on man give her cunt a good licking its what you both want but when you fuck her put on a French letter .
Go for it if a French Latter turns you on. My wife like the Pirate Outfit. I don't understand the French Latter why?
Just go for it. You want it, and so does she. After my older sister's divorce, I became the apartment helper, boyfriend, sex partner, and compadre to her
wild side. Loved every bit of it, and we still mess around often. Similar, too, she'd bring up things we'd done, or almost did, together back at home, and could do now that she had the apartment alone. There were a lot of crazy nights there, sex games, nudism..Really was all systems go. I always saw it as better me than someone she didn't know..
Well, my sister and I were lovers. We have a child in common, now a married woman with her own children. So I've been down the brother/sister road a good distance.
I've had 2 long term relationships, since breaking with her.
Neither of them were as emotionally intimate and warm as with her.
I bonded with her so much, that other women really don't have a chance. Looking back, I try to create best parts of my relationship with my sister in my relationships, rather than discovering the best parts of a new and different relationship. Knowing this doesn't help me to do anything differently.
Also, in order to "reform myself", I keep picking women who weren't like her at all (different race, culture, etc.), so odds of resurrecting familiar relationship patterns are hopeless.
Don't do as I have done.
Find a woman who has the traits that you love with out shame if they are similar to your sister. But pick women with a substantial and balanced life. Your sister may appreciate the similarities...and if she doesn't, you will.
First off, ask yourself if your sexual distance from your sister matches with your core values, or more closely with your fear of being judged and shamed, or a sense that the judgment of others can be an unavoidable obstacle to having what you want in life.
a little set-up. There is a thing called iatrogenic syndromes, or iatrogenic pathology. It comes, not from your life in the world, or your 'family of origin', but it comes from the therapy you received. Such therapeutic conditioning can be well meant as 'in your best interest', or it could be a blind projection of the world view of the therapist.
If the boundaries you created for yourself were discovered by you, with a therapist's support, as being congruent with what you most deeply want in life, then those boundaries are healthy. If you inspect your boundaries, and find they are constructed within you as a form of 'seduction into someone else's morality', then you will sense a dissonance at a moral level....your vision for life with this boundary may never come into focus.
Figure it out.
If your rejection of your sister as a sex partner, or companion is the result of a 'Therapeutic Head Trip', then rediscover your true self, and give it what it wants.
If your rejection is as natural as apple pie drifting in the breezes of your liberated soul, then, by all means, tell your sister you will never have sex with her or be a companion to her, and if she cannot accept that, then you MUST leave for her sake, and for your own, because the unrequited desire on her part, and existential dissonance on your part is a very bad thing.
Leave her because you Love her, and it is the right thing to do.
Stay, because your Love her, and it is the right thing to do.
Your choice, upon reflection upon your Soul's yearnings, and your minds kind, nonjudgmental review.
I posted "Well, my sister and I", and this is an powerful insight into my discontent...sadly, I even knew this from the start, but have been too cowardly to live this way.
I've been called an "old soul", but you, Anon, are ancient (in a good way).
Dude! Wake up. You both want it, so just have sex. Having sex with a sibling is not all that uncommon. Just don't get her pregnant.