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Any women, who are cheaters & feel remorse but can't stop?
I'm wondering if I'm the only woman with this problem. My whole life (I'm 30 now), even though I didn't start out intending to be a slut or cheat on my boyfriends and husband, I can't stop. Before I was married I was only caught twice, and the second time I actually felt horrible, but despite trying to turn over a new leaf on my next relationship I continued to cheat. When I married a wonderful man I thought for certain I wouldn't commit adultery - but I did inside 1 year. Then I thought when I had kids I'd stop, but I still couldn't, even when I was pregnant. At this point I almost feel hopeless. I realize that I'd probably lose everything if my secrets were revealed, but it's also so incredibly convenient and I'm very good at hiding it that I can't seem to change. Despite having what most people would call a good sex life with my husband, most of the time I'm faking it because for some reason the thing that turns me on the most is illicit or taboo sex.
My back story is too long to tell in this comment section, so I will condense it all. I cheated on my last boyfriend constantly. Before him I slutted around a lot. Like a lot a lot. When I got together with him I stopped for almost a year, but then I was back at it. For 7 years I cheated on him. A few different guys a month at least, some might have been semi steady, at least for some time. Coworkers, my friends boyfriends, strangers. I was very busy and it took a toll on me so I broke up with him. He never knew any of it. It was my own guilt that ended it.
I was single for a couple years after that. Fucking everyone without all the lying and sneaking around. Until....
I met my current boyfriend. I was honest when he asked me why me and my ex broke up. And he was honest about his kink or fetish or interest, whatever you want to call it. He did it with all of his long term gfs before me. I didnt think that was a thing and had never heard of it.
He took my hand and guided us thru the beginning stages. I get more cock now than I ever have. Its more fun sharing it with my boyfriend than it was ever when I was single. He loves me and encourages me and accepts me being my true slutty self. He is involved every step of the way.
I see nothing wrong with your lifestyle!
My wife fucks every man she can and I love it. You should drops hints to your hubby and see how he reacts. Like talking about women sluts and see. Maybe he will like you being a slut and the both of you can have fun like my wife and I.
I am essentially the male version of everything you describe. I've cheated since my very first girlfriend and still do today in my marriage. I've been caught and she still took me back. Only six months after swearing everyone else off I was back at it again.
I emphasize with you and wish I could offer any help. But my only words of wisdom are "be vary careful & practice the best self control you can"
Yes this is a seedy flirt but, message me if you ever wanna talk. (I told you guys I was an addict)
It's a simple fact that there are women in the world who cannot possibly be satisfied by the sexual attention of one man. You are almost certainly one of them. Yes, the thrill of the illicit is a part of it, and the possibility of being caught adds spice, but the primary element is that you aren't getting all you need at home because you can't get all you need there. So, you stray. Stop obsessing over it. Your body tells you what it needs, and you are just going out and getting it. Enjoy yourself, and all the men in your life. You need them. And you deserve them. Good luck to you!
I am 22 and like you one man can't satisfy my sexual needs, this has been going on for the past 5 years and I don't see slowing down or stopping in sight at all. Currently eight guys has been fucking me almost daily and one don't know about the other.
If you have to ask you will not understand her. You get off on it because you need the reassurance about your looks or desirability. you'll stop when you realize that all the men care about is your pussy and not you as a person. Your husband is the only one that does and your dumping all over him. It will be to late at that point.
As a male in the same boat I know what you feel.. I am married and my wife is great in bed, give and wants it more than any woman I've known. However I still have the need to add other women into my sex life when I can sneak them in. Neighbors wife, coworker, random girls met out and about.. I think its the new sex, the thrill of doing something forbidden. I always try to be faithful. It isn't that I don't love her. Its an urge and a high. I am safe about it and know the women, or get to know them and hence prefer married as they generally are clean and not total whores. I would love to say stop and be faithful but there are some of us that just don't enjoy it and the tension would maybe cause more problems at home than the secret does.
What is it about cheating that makes you enjoy it so much? Is it the risk of getting caught? Maybe you need to get caught, by someone other than your husband, who will threaten to tell him unless you stop. If you really want to stop, that might be one way.