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I feel like a failure.
Im 22 years old. Im a really attractive female. I love having sex giving head and all that great stuff. I have been with a hand ful of guys, I have NEVER gotten off from sex alone and I feel so bad. I only cum when I touch myself thats it. My boyfriend now feels shitty that he cant get me off. Its not his fault hes great at everything I just honestly think I was born without a g spot... is this common?
Most all women get off with clitoral stimulation and not vaginal penetration, so don't worry at all. Just let him lick you, or use a vibrator on you or you use it yourself and you'll get off just fine.
I honestly think you have not been with the right guy, I have been with at least a handful of women and none of them have ever expressed that they could not have an orgasm from me. I am a firm believer in the ladies first and always give one or two well ahead of my own but I did have one lover who would have a bigger orgasm if she felt like it was beyond her control. She gave me all the freedom I wanted to give her pleasure and I also learned that she could orgasm better with a lot of foreplay and edging.
So experiment on what makes you orgasm, do not keep doing the same thing to get there and you may discover that something really makes your motor run.
I married my wife at age 19. She didn't start having good orgasms until she was 35. Part of the problem was that I got off too quickly and we didn't do afterplay. She didn't like much foreplay either. Eventually she relaxed ahead of sex and I slowed down, and she started getting off. It was good while it lasted.
It is completely common to not be able to get off during vaginal sex only, so don't freak out. It is not, however, that you've been born without a g-spot.
You are still pretty young, and you likely just have trouble reaching it. In many cases, the feeling is so foreign to women who have never had a g-spot orgasm with a partner, that they psych themselves out and that's the whole reason they can't orgasm that way. It's a tough spot to hit, trust me. I'm almost 30, and I can still count the number of times I've hit a g-spot orgasm during sex. I've been with my partner for over a year, and some days it works, other days it doesn't. It has nothing to do with him.
But one thing that IS important is a lot of foreplay. Most women need at least 20 minutes of foreplay (oral sex, fingering, breast play) before they're even capable of reaching a g-spot orgasm. If you're not putting in the time with foreplay, that could be another reason.
And in the meantime, why not add a vibrator to your sex sessions? Holding a small vibrator on your clit during sex is a sure-fire way to orgasm. Plus, I'm sure he'll find it hot to watch you play.
Hope this helps! :)
I would go see a sexual therapist. I knew a girl who couldn't get off from anyone else - she was molested for years. I don't know if that's the case with you. I do think it is on a mental level, not a lack of a G-spot. Don't feel down though, I think if you went to sexual therapy you'd be good to go.