Flesh light

If you fit that flashlight into your pussy you must be pretty loose.

I'm not familiar with the flesh light but if there was no skin to skin contact, I'll say NO! It wasn't sex & you did not cheat.

I went to college in the early 90's. I was dating my current husband and the time but we were hours away. I joined a sorority and was attending lots of parties. I had lots of guys hitting on me but I'd have to turn them down. My roommate told me about the 'it doesn't count rule'. She said if a guy wears a condom, it doesn't count. No skin to skin contact. Of course, we can all agree oral doesn't count either.

The first one night stand, I felt awkward because I'd only been with my boyfriend at the time. As time went on, I felt comfortable having protected sex with random guys. I quickly understood the concept 'it's just sex, have fun'.

Oh yeah, they knew the deal too. Most had girlfriends back home and had a condoms on hand too.
I ended up with a fwb (friend with benefits) for a year. He was in a relationship too. lol
Crazy after all those years we follow each other on fb.

No it's not.
Cheating is just an outdated phrase, I been married for years and I still have sex with loose females all the time even males and stray animals

So does your spouse.