Am i a bad husband

It depends on how strong your relationship is with your wife and you have to understand that once you start this kind of lifestyle there's no turning back and she will find a guy that she really likes to be with and enjoys having sex with. You are not always going to be able to watch her fucking someone else and that's the hard part when she is alone with other men. My wife and I started out having threesoms and then she started fucking guys with out me being there you have to be man enough to expect that she is doing what you wanted her to do. If she really loves you she will stay with you and you better never try to use her fucking other men against her in an argument then you just fucked up. My wife has been with probably 60 or 70 different men over the years both black and white men and I think that she's a better wife because of it .

Yep.

Be careful of what you wish for. my wife and I married as teenagers, after we were married a dozen years somehow wondered what we missed.
we went to club where she hooked up with a couple of guys, she is a very beautiful woman. I didn't find anyone attractive.
2 years later we were divorced

Same here. My wife and I met in high school and married after college.
After our second child, she was in her mid 30s became worried about her weight. She used to be a soccer player with a killer body in her 20s.
She got a gym membership and became obsessed with fitness. She lost the weight and at my advice, she started wearing tight sexy cloths again. Her wardrobe changed and she was dressing much younger. I didn't mind because I loved he look. I also noticed her sex life took a nose dive.
I'd heard through her friend she was leaving work early and taking lunches with a guy. I placed an air tag in her car and purse. Long story, she was having an affair with a younger co-worker. Of course, we divorced when she didn't want to work things out. After the divorce, we still communicate because of the kids. Guess what, the guy dumped her.

See that what a lot of contributors don't tell you. I also pushed at my wife to become a hot wife, married young, she had 4 children by the time she was 22. she went into a depression, because of the children and how out of shape she was. It started by her going to business school, which gave her confidence, then going to the gym and being obsessed with it. She was lighter and more buff than HS and constantly wore yoga pants that showed every curve.
Then I got a windfall, and she asked if she could get breast surgery, ended up with the most gorgeous set of natural looking breast. That when she said that she was confident enough to "take a dip in the water".
It was that she was already seeing someone, and her telling me that was just sort of hinting that she was moving on, which she did