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I'm Afraid That My Crush Thinks I'm Too Fat.
I'm a 17 year old HS student and have this massive crush on a boy since we were in the 8th grade. I'm also the fattest girl in our school. I'm average height but way above average weight. I would be considered a SSBBW as I am over 400lbs. I've been fat all my life because my parents are both fat and they just overfed me and my sister becuase I guess they didn't really know better. I've been told that I have a beautiful face but what's the sense in having that if it's on a beached whale of a body? Anyway, I'm okay with it as I have resigned myself to being this way after failing diet after diet. My appetite seems to just grow and grow along with the rest of me. My only hope now is lap band surgery but I'm still a minor and my fat pig parents won't hear of it.
I have known this boy for years and he lives not that far from me. We are good friends and we hang out with the same group of friends a lot. He is tall, handsom and athletic, my exact oposite, I'm a short fat puffed up toad. He texts me all the time, mostly to just chit-chat and tell me jokes. I'm kind of the class clown so he probably thinks I appreciate the comedy. Unfortunately, more often than not the jokes are fat jokes which I find hurtful but at the same time I get it, I'm a big fatso and people make comments about my weight all the time. It's usually no big deal most times but it hurts when my crush makes jokes about it. I've actually started avoiding him because of it. Other than the fat jokes he is always very sweet to me and hugs and kisses me on the cheek when he sees me. I haven't hung out with him or talked to him since before Christmas and I miss him terribly. I dream about being with him at night, although I'm always thin in my dreams, but I wake up with my heart racing and I'm soaking wet between my legs. I usually just lay there and cry for the rest of the night. I want him so bad but I'm afraid he will reject me. In fact, I'm almost certain of it because of my weight. What good looking guy wants to be know as the guy who loves the fat pig? Being seen with me as more than kust a friend would be an embarrassment that I cannot put him thru. What am I to do? There is another girl in our group of friends that likes him as well and she is thin and gorgeous. I so afraid that she will get him and I will be left on the sidelines. But really, does it actually matter? He is so far above my league that I haven't got a fighting chance. Is this what I am in for for the rest of my life? Loneliness, longing and unrequited love, a life unfulfilled, 30 cats? I might as well end it now if that is what I'm going to face.
Fat pig.
You are too fat but that's cool. A lot of guys like the big fattys.
Only the brothas will put up with a fat bitch. Any other guy with a fatty is with her because she is easy. Fat chicks are the bottom of the sexual market barrel. Only black unemployed hoodrats and white trash losers will be with one.
Have you lost any weight or are you still a big fat pig?
Let me know if you wanna talk
Lose weight
Find a brotha. Niggras will fuck anything even if it looks like Jabba the Hut.
Lose weight, whale woman. Get that surgery before you end up fat forever.
Pig... Oink oink.
You're fucking fat. Do something about it while you still can.
Why do you fat slobs all think that you might have a shot with fit good looking guys? Are you that delusional? No one wants a big fat pig for a girlfriend except chubby chasing losers who can not do any better. Fattys are 2nd or even 3rd class girlfriends or heaven forbid, wives. It's horrifying that when you go out in public there are so many obese girls all painted up and pierced. It really give me cause for concern for the fate of the human race. Get your huge ass to the gym or maybe see a doctor for weight-loss drug injections.. There is always surgery as well. Don't take "no" for an answer.
I was in Disney World recently and I never saw so many fat disgusting pigs in my life.
You are too fat.
Lose weight. You will be happier and healthier for it. Unfortunately since you were raised as a fat pig by your parents, you will be battling your bulge for a lifetime. The truth is no self-respecting guy wants an obese girlfriend or wife. The only kind of guy that wants that shit is a weird fat fetish creep or a complete loser, so homely that they can't do any better. See a nutritionist and a trainer and start losing weight today.
You sound beautiful you won’t have trouble finding a guy that likes you the way you are
She's a whale and she needs to lose a ton of weight, otherwise she will be alone and die young.
Fat pig. Lose weight.
Don't listen to the brainless assholes talking shit . Because all they do is spew shit out of their mouths . If you want to talk to some who understands email me runningfree1955@gmail.com
Fishing for obese jailbait? Sick fuck. The girl needs a diet and an exercise plan not your attempts at a hook-up.
If you think your too fat, and you are, then do something about it. Only you can control what you eat and how much you eat. But DON'T do it for some boy. Do it for your future happiness and healthiness. Life is hard enough without going through it as a big fat whale.
Lose weight, you fat pig or you'll be dead by 35.
You're not too fat, no such thing as too fat. Tell him how you feel. There is a good chance he feels the same but because of peer pressure he is afraid to make the first move. If you find out that he isn't intrested, so what. When you get older and get out in the world you will find that lots of guys will go crazy for your super-sized figure. I am one of those guys and I now have a gorgeous 600 plus pound wife.
You are too fat and your crush knows it. Lose weight piggy.
Fuck your crush! When you turn 18 find a middle age man, we love big girls, just ain't going to jail for one!
So when I turn 18 I should have a relationship with someone like my dad. Interesting but no thanks. Not my thing.
Lose weight. You're too God damn fat. No boy will want you at your enormous 400 pounds. I don't care how pretty you face is. Your body is revolting, it just screams that you have no respect for yourself, so why should anyone else? AND you are going to suffer from diabetes and heart disease if you don't already. Those diseases are not curable or reversible. Your friend is probably using the fat jokes to shame you into losing weight and rightfully so because he doesn't want you to be dead by age 30. Dont just sit there and cry like a big fat lazy pig, do something about your horrifying condition. Use those jokes as thinspiration and lose weight and get healthy or you will be a fat lonely slob all your life.
👆 He's right you know 👆
Thanks a lot. As if I didn't feel bad enough... Jerk.
Don't mention it, porky. Now start your diet.
You are putting to much stock in a teenage relationship that may or may not happen. You sound like a wonderful person. Your writing is very mature for your age. It seems to me that you are actually way better off than you think. If you have that beautiful face as you have been told then work it girl. There are plenty of guys that adore that larger figure. You will find this out when you reach full adulthood. I assume you will be going off to some type of higher education soon and a whole new world will open up to you. All you will have to do is walk in to it and take part in it. Put the past in the past where it belongs. But whatever you do, you have to tell your friend that the jokes are hurtful and that you want him to stop. If he doesn't stop then he is not even remotely your friend and is best relegated to the dust bin. Remember, you are more than just your weight and I know right now it doesn't seem that way but it's the truth.
I will be going off to a univ in the fall to study pre-law. I would like one day to be a trial lawyer. I hope what you say is right. I would very much like to experience a new and exciting world but I'm afraid my size will get in the way. I'm a very outgoing person but I know that when I meet new people, they don't really meet me. They meet my size. All they see is my morbid obesity and most never go any further than that. Even today, fat people are judged very harshly. We are seen as lazy, greedy, dirty, and stupid by our society. I'm very worried about this and I'm afraid college will be no different than my past experiences. I know that I am more than the numbers on the scale but at the same time I desperately need to lose this weight otherwise, it will hold me back in almost everything I attempt in life. Well, I could always just become a huge obese internet sex worker and have creepy guys pay my bills 😆. Fortunately or unfortunately depending how you look at it, I have far too much self respect and brains to fall into that trap.
I am so sorry that you’re having to deal with all this negative attention and sorrow. Please don’t accept as an absolute that you must have a gastric surgery: they don’t always work and they can be extremely dangerous. Please also don’t allow yourself to believe that the boy you mentioned is your best Find a diet that allows you to take small steady steps, and an exercise regimen that you actually enjoy, so that you are encouraged to do it EVERY DAY! Make the diet and the workouts a part of your life. But whatever you do, please, please, please, please , PLEASE do not give up. For what it’s worth, I have just prayed that God will give you the strength, and wisdom, and guidance, and encouragement to find and maintain the path you should be on in order to accomplish all the goals you have for yourself. God loves you. And so do I. You are a wonderful person, and you deserve to have good things happen for you. Please take good care of yourself!!
Thank you, you're very kind. But even my doctor has suggested lap band surgery. It's not as drastic as the full by-pass which I would never consider unless it was a life or death thing. I've tried all kinds of diets, doctor prescribed and not. I was on Keto for 3 months and all Iost was basically 90 days. And it's not like I'm not active. I walk constantly, I bowl on two different leagues and I lift weights, and do a moderate cardio workout 3 times a week. But my genetics and my appetite conspire against me constantly. As I mentioned I come from a fat family and we all have the same issue. Mine just seems to be the worst. I'm going to be fat forever, it's in the cards. It's just that I would like to be less fat than I am now.
Doctors are not always the objective, disinterested, outside observers we believe them to be. If the doc who recommended the lap-band is the one who’d perform that procedure, then you can see where a bias might occur, and at a minimum, you should go elsewhere and get a solid second opinion, even if you ultimately return to the first doctor and move ahead with the operation. I prayed for you before, and I’ve just done that again. I don’t say any of this because I consider you naive or unintelligent; quite the contrary. I think you are extremely bright, mature and
aware. I simply want what’s best for you. Whether you believe it or not, you have become quite important to me. Continue to take care of yourself and be well.
Thank you, but my doctor doesn't do that kind of surgery. She has referred me to one that specializes in bariatric treatment. I was told that the earlier in life I get bariatric surgery, the great my chances are for long term weight-loss success. But as I previously stated, my parents are completely against it. They've been saying that I will thin out all my life but judging from how their bodies are and their approach to nutrition, its not likely to happen. I swear they just want to keep me and my sister obese because they don't want to be forced to face their failure to teach us proper eating habits. It's either surgery or I will be a big fat pig like my parents for the rest of my life.
Excuses, excuses. All you big fat pigs are full of excuses why you can't lose weight or put the fork down. It all boils down to laziness and a lack of self discipline. It's just easier to stuff your fat faces and then feel sorry for yourselves. You don't really want to lose weight because it's too damn hard. What you want is sympathy. You want some gullible dumbass to sit and boo-hoo with you and hopefully bring you a cheeseburger...
Tell him the fat jokes have got to stop and don't worry so much. Teenage crushes come and go. Your life isn't predicated on what happens in your teens. I'm sure your future will be very different from what you are experiencing now.
I know you are right but it hurts.
Go for it. Bodies change but personality doesn't. I'd let him know if what he jokes about hurts you. A friend will understand and not do that hopefully.
I hope so because I really like him and aside from the jokes, we really get along well.