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I'm in one of the weirdest, but most satisfying relationships i've ever been in, but i'm beginning to think it could be hitting a dead end soon.
it all started with the best one night stand ever. i'm a guy, she's a woman, and shortly after meeting we were in a hotel room fucking each other's brains out. i don't think we stopped until my dick started to hurt. 8 months into our relationship, we still fuck like rabbits, but now we are very, very close. we love each other.
here's the thing: she's the petite, fitness-lifestyle leading girl who looks much younger than she really is, and i'm the kind of guy who's really tall, with a deep voice and a serious beard, so i look way older. so when we met we thought we were about the same age, even though i am 22 and she recently turned 36. the sex was so good that we just kept at it (she said no man had ever fucked her as lovingly before, and i had never been with a woman like her, so free and so connected to her sexuality), and the relationship just developed.
so as you might guess, we're kind of at different points in our lives. i'm fresh out of college, working to try and land the job of my dreams, figuring independence out. meanwhile, for her, marriage and kids are questions constantly on her table, considering her age. and while i'm seriously in love with her (and i can't stress just how good the sex is), i'm not sure i'm quite ready to commit in that way. i don't care about the age difference, but relationships require time and sacrifice, and as i'm working on some serious dream-achieving, i'm seriously considering in breaking up with her. what do you think?
Don't get too caught up in all the materialism when people matter the most. One day you could lose it all and you'll need someone by your side, someone that has your back, someone that inspires you to take on the world, someone that is there for you and with you. Besides, do you know that more often than not many, many people succeed in their work while they also succeed with a spouse and family. So many companies and organizations are big on the work-personal life balance of their employees which is a great help for everyone now.
Overall though, how is the chemistry with her? What are your designs for marriage and/or kids? Do you think she loves you as much as you love her? Do you think that she is the "one"? She sounds like she is and from what I am reading from you I'd say commit to this woman now and begin planning a life for the two of you. If it were me personally I would commit to her and do whatever it takes to not let her get away. Sure, the job search is top priority but then she would be at least equal to it and be there to offer you more love and support than you could imagine. You truly have some serious consideration to do but let me tell you from one who has experienced much the same that you can always fine a good job but that isn't everything and that life is too short to let a good woman go. Take it from me the importance of a great marriage to a great spouse can never be overstated.
Keep all your options open and for now maintain things with her. It's great to have dreams and personal goals and all that but don't get wrapped up in pie in the sky nonsense. Reality is that your dream job may never happen and if you give up on her too soon you may never find a woman like her and you will really regret it.
You could get that dream job out of state and if so that may see the relationship transition into an eventual breakup on it's own. Or if you get that job close to home you could still see her for the obvious mutual benefit. Either way you may have to impose some guidelines or ground rules for now in order to achieve what you want. Know though that what seems important for you now will not necessarily be the same in a few years or more. Business, industry, the whole work world will change drastically in the coming years and your job focus, career path and related personal goals will change with it. You may end up going back to school for higher degrees or to learn other disciplines. If you are too focused on work, on your job, on your career there is a very good chance you could miss the boat on what may very well be the most important and satisfying phase of your whole life.