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Sexually frustrated in marriage
I've been very sexually frustrated lately. My partner doesn't give nor receieve head, she doesn't let me finger her for that long, she sometimes starfishes and sometimes closes her eyes. Also sex often seems like its a chore for her. She doesnt like even try to be sexy for me like perhaps initiating the sex jumping on me, grabbing my penis or telling me shes horny... I have a raging sex drive and need sex at very least 4-5 times a week yet that just doesn't ever happen. Usually once or twice a week and that's if I really push her to let me Fuck her.
Before I wedded her I always imagined we'd do it multiple times in one session and lie in bed fucking multiple times for hours. I thought I'd eat her out a ton and make her cum and she'd suck my Dick yet she refuses. She says it tickles her vagina which may be true but she won't try to help the situation.
If I talk to her about it she gets defensive and changes the subject. I just don't know what to do anymore I find myself fantasizing being with other women and even looking at ads for call girls just for amusement. And entertaining the idea of divorce. I get such a joy when I imagine myself with other hotter girls who are better in bed.
We recently decided to start trying to get pregnant but I'm not sure it's the best idea at least not until we get this issue sorted out. I love her dearly and want to make it work but I just want to enjoy my sexual relationship with her not fret over it.
She probably has some big black dude fucking her up the ass when your not around
I have pretty much the same problem with my boyfriend. I have a very high sex drive, and like you, would love it 5-6 times a week. But he just isn't as interested as I am. When we first got together the sex was amazing, and we used to be at it several times a day. Now it's once or twice a week if I'm lucky. And even then, it usually winds up with him fingering me for 5mins and then laying back and getting a blowjob. When we do actually have sex it's always me on top, reverse cowgirl style (Which I don't mind, but I would love him to just take charge and throw me around like he used to do, or to be on top so I can actually look at him while we have sex.)
He also gets defensive if I mention it, which puts me off talking about it. I don't want to fall out, our relationship is pretty much perfect.
Its so frustrating!! I know how you feel. I'm not really getting the satisfaction because when we actually do it I'm constantly wondering if he's doing it because he feels like he has to, not because he wants to.
I love sexually frustrated men. They usually vent out their frustration on my body which leads to amazing sex. :)
Having kids makes it WAY harder to have sex. You spend like the first year of your kid's life fantasizing about sleep instead of sex. No joke! Take her to a marriage counselor or a sex therapist, and if that doesn't work, divorce her and find someone who matches your sex drive. And don't have kids until your relationship is rock solid.
Sexual compatibility is something you have a high priority on, and that isn't happening with your wife. People change... that's part of life. You have to make that call whether you stay with her or not, but it sounds like you're going to be unhappy, and are unhappy already. One unhappy partner makes for two unhappy partners in the long run. If that's good for your kids to be around, well... good luck to you. Talk it through with the wife and do yourself the biggest favour you can - break it off before you do something stupid. It'll hurt like fuck... but look after yourself. This is the time to do it - before the kids!
That's my 2c.