I don't know how to tell my husband I was raped

When I was raped I ended up leaving the bar to go drink with two college kids and I never told my husband. It might be the wrong N Fais, but I feel like it’s the best advice, but I wouldn’t tell.

And the penis goes into the vagina

We need more details. If you were raped and you reported to law enforcement, and went to the ER and did the rape kit process, naturally your husband would know about that.

If you were raped in some other situation, that your husband doesn't naturally know aabout, that's a different situation. Then you would have to explain what happened. Were you raped by someone you knew, someone who no one would suspect of having done that, for example.

We need more details of what happened to you to answer your question

If you can get to some form of professional counseling they'd likely have some insight for you.

You could go to a support group for survivors of sexual assault, someone there might have some good advice.

There's also RAINN, Rape Abuse and Incest National Network, you can do a web search for the URL and phone number, they're a well known org that advocates for SA survivors and would also likely be able to help you.

Good luck.

If you trust him, just tell him. And be honest about how it made you feel, whether that was good or bad or a mixture of both.

Be honest and open with him