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Was a interviewer flirting
Hi, please dont judge me, I am just asking for advice.
Ok I know that interviewers are friendly anyway, thats their job, but I recently had an interview for a voluntary job, and the young lady who interviewed me seemed 'extra' friendly.
1. It was probably a test to see if I could take control of a situation, but she kept 'having trouble' getting the lid off her pen as it was stuck - bad on me I never thought maybe I should have offered until I had left!
2. A few times she mentioned a charity event taking place in a couple of days 'come along if your not too busy ' she kept saying, she also made a point of mentioning that she would be there!
3. I followed up the interview with a thanks for seeing email (always do), I got a reply from her saying what a lovely email, I didn't think too much about this, maybe she didn't expect a thanks message.
In her reply email though she mentioned yet another charity event (where she will be.
4. Now bear in mind I haven't yet been offered the job (thats up to head office 3-4 weeks CRB checks etc), she had ended her email with 'Thanks' as opposed to the usual (yours, regards etc), and also said to keep in touch!
Keep in touch re the job, or personal????
So any ideas, just being friendly or was she flirting?
I'm 45m and I would say she was about 28.
I went to a bank recently to open a business checking account and found the account manager (25) to be VERY friendly. I'm 38 and she even told me how cute my kids were and wrote her personal cell phone on a biz card and told me or my wife to call if we ever needed a babysitter.
Now I've fantasized about this young lady but I knew better than to call her for any reason. My buddies told me I was crazy not to pursue it but I honestly got this feeling that this younger generation doesn't quite have the social manners even people my age do.
Seems to me she was flirting, and doing so in a fairly open way. I'm not suggesting that you jump her (at least not yet), but you ABSOLUTELY should go to BOTH of the charity events and make a point of chatting her up at both of them, doing so as much as possible, and then maybe ring her after the second one and invite her for coffee or drinks. Make it clear that the offer has nothing to do with the job possibility, but just a meeting with a like-minded and civic-minded friend. If she wants more than that, she'll let you know. In addition, send her the occasional email with links to news articles and other information that bear upon the job area or her work or that you think she'd find helpful. Do not allow this contact to drop by inattention. Stay after her . . . and let us know when she's moved into your place. :)
Went to the first charity event, yes she was there but I unfortunately missed her as she was busy, but I did email and told her I was there and saw her. She told me about the displays that she liked best (mainly the fire/ambulance car crash reconstruction in this case. She ended this email with 'hope to speak to you soon :)' . And yes the smiley face was there lol.
The next charity event she told me about is in a couple of weeks.
Sorry to hear that you didn't connect with her at the first one, but please please please keep the communication going and be sure to attend the second event. Don't allow her fire to burn out: keep after her! And don't let her get away!
OK then, just had a first training day for my new role, about 10 of us attended this and of those 10, 5 of us were guys.
My interviewer (who I now know is also my line manager) was there and friendly as usual.
One thing I noticed was that she made me a cup of coffee - but no-one else!
Also when she was talking about the volunteer roles she said (like most places I guess) that volunteers are a major part of the organisation and are encouraged to mention if things can be changed to make then more efficient. She kept refering to the role I applied for, and mentioning that I would possibly like things to happen 'differently' and I should make an appointment with her to discuss this if this is the case!
Am I really blind here, or just being stupid and reading the signals wrong because I'm old school and she is JUST being friendly.
Oh and the next charity day is next week, as far as I know she will be there again.
You don't say what kind of job you are interviewing for, but my take on this is that you encountered a young woman who is rather casual about her interviewing technique, while you are a bit "old school". It seems to me that some of the "rules" have changed and, if I were you, I wouldn't read too much into her behavior. If she's interested in you on a personal level, she will let you know without a doubt.8T8U
It was for a voluntary position with a charity organisation that offers emergency support to people in distress eg lost their home or possessions due to fire, flood etc