Why do men want to have anal sex as I assume it stinks badly

My boyfriend wants to have anal sex with me, but I have never done it before and I am thinking the following: he will only want to have anal sex and we will never go back to vaginal once he starts anal, it will hurt, it will stink and I cannot stand the smell of shit, I will get more urinary tract infections than I already do with our 3 hour sex sessions every night, my girlfriend told me she left a guy because he only wanted anal after they started it and she didn't like it, so why do men want it so much? I'm not doing it as I don't think it will feel good at all.

11 months ago

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      She got me wet, and lowered herself down on my thick, but not long, dick.
      I came pretty quick. She did not.
      It was not pleasant for her - even though we were both super turned on by doing something new.
      I did not particularly enjoy it either.
      I much preferred her tight little young pussy.
      She does like for me to lick her butt, and will usually tip over into a big orgasm if I slip a finger tip into her butt while we're fucking. I think a lot of women like that. But a tongue and a finger tip are nothing like pushing a dick into her bottom.
      It was an experience - one we do not care to repeat!

    • For the girl, there's nothing fun or hot or arousing or intimate or satisfying about anal AT ALL! It's just pain and stink and a big mess in your bed that you can never get clean enough to sleep in again. Every time you get in your bed after that you will still smell the shit. You will have to throw the bed out and go buy a new one at the mattress store. That's why he wants to take your ass in YOUR bed and not in his. Do NOT give it up. If he wants ass, tell him, "You must be a faggot!" and "Get the fuck out,you miserable fucking ass-wrangler!!!" Whatever you do, DON'T GIVE UP THE ASS!!! Goes for all girls!

    • Your concerns are totally legit. Anal sex is not an act of love like vaginal sex is. No, anal sex is an act of dominion and aggression and manipulation and suppression and control. It's about degradation and debasement . it's all humiliation and enslavement. If you don't want it, don't EVER let him start . . . . you'll never get him to stop. Once he gets it the first time, he will absolutely ass-rape you every time thereafter if he has to, just to get back up in there! Just say no, and then check him literally every time he comes home to see if he's stuck that thing in some other ass. Tell him each time to let you smell his dick! Please don't start giving up your ass to that monster!! He will kill you by fucking you in your shit!! JUST SAY NO!

    • Cleaning the damn thing out first wouldn't be such a bad idea....

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    • We have been married four years and I never got the pleasure of fucking my wife in the ass. Three months ago we got together with another couple and swapped wives. The dude took the wife's ass. She didn't even try to stop him. So the next time me and the wife got together for sex I went for her ass. She tried to stop me so I bitch slapped her around and we had rough sex and I got her ass. When it was over she told me she had been waiting for ever for me to have rough sex with her. She said we need to do that more often. Sounds like good times are ahead.

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      Just say no unless it's something that you want to try.

    • Thank you for your feedback as I found it very helpful. I am sticking to no.

    • I'm glad it was helpful. Sisters need to look out for each other. You sound lovely.

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    • It's a power trip. He wants to own ALL of you. What do you want ?

    • I think you're right; he wants to own all of me. He's the owner of his own company and used to being in charge of everyone and everything. He thinks fast. He acts quickly and decisively. He drags me right across the bed over to the side of the bed where he puts my legs up and enters me keeping my legs up so he can watch his cock slide in and out of my pink pussy.
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    • I don't believe he will leave me for someone younger, prettier, etc. just because I won't have anal sex. The man who wrote that doesn't know how beautiful I am, or that I have an amazing body due to daily workouts with weights and cardio. I don't worry about a man leaving me because no man has ever left me. We have a great sex life and do everything else, and I believe a woman who has boundaries should keep them. We both please each other sexually, so we have no problems with sex and mutual pleasure. I just wondered why the urge to have anal? I agree with the woman who said anal is a smelly mess and don't let him talk you into it. I won't. And he won't leave me due to my refusal to have anal, or else he was not my kind of man in the first place.

    • If he's not already fucking some other woman's asshole, he will be soon. And the great likelihood is that it's somebody you know and consider a friend; someone who you've told about his interest in anal sex and your reluctance to give it up. Thanks to you, she'll know PRECISELY how to seduce him . . . . . by openly offering him the very thing she knows you've been repeatedly denying him. Imagine him laying with her in her bed, balls-deep in her anus, his cock covered in her sweet, sweet shit, his arms wrapped around her naked body, thanking her for sharing the loving intimacy you stubbornly refuse. She'll tell him, as they fall asleep together, "I'm going to keep giving this to you, darling, any time and every time you want it, and I'll be using it to take you from her . . . FOREVER!!!"

    • Insist on an enema first. That will make you feel cleaner. Use plenty of lube and take it slow... You can always make him wear a condom.

    • Men just want to fuck all your holes and if one of your holes is out of bounds or is taboo in some way then it just makes it seem more exciting to want to fuck it: maybe you should try it, use lots of lube and go slow, you might like it and once your bf has done it a few times the novelty will probably wear off especially if he finds that anal sex isn't all that its cracked up to be

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