Is it important for a man to cum?

I'm female, 45 and divorced for over a year. I joined a local singles club, monthly social meetings etc. After a couple of dates with men where all was OK but nothing further I met my current boyfriend, John. He's 50 and treats me well. The question is about sex and if a man always need to cum. We have good sex, nothing out of the ordinary, but sometimes he doesn't cum. I've offered to finish him by hand but he says it's OK, he enjoyed it.

With previous sex the men have always cum and, when I was married, my husband always came in me or I finished him off, so it's a bit of a surprise that John doesn't seem to mind not cumming sometimes. He says that it's not me and he's always ready for sex so I assume that he's telling the truth. He said that I don't always cum but I told him that it's different for women.

So, original question to men, do you always cum and if not, why not?

4 months ago

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