My Fiance has a dominatrix addiction

My Fiance is a 40 year old submissive man. We dated for 3 years and is about to get marry in a couple of month. I always knew he had that side of him but told him I was okay with it as long as he tell me when he is going to play with a professional dominatrix. To my knowledge i thought he only did it once with my consent.

I just found out despite my understanding he went behind my back a year ago and organize a play date with a pro-dominatrix. He Booked a hotel room for her when she visit, helped her moved hotels, and offered to pay for her meals for a friend of her without participating. Above that he has a collarspace account which he has been active on ever since we started dating. Although he has not met up with anyone he's wrote numerous long and grossly devoted letter to numerous female users.

He have not done anything for the past year except calling a dominatrix line around Christmas time while I was visiting my family in another country. I feel i have been nothing but patient and understanding to his special needs. But he said he doesnt now if i meant it when I said I'm okay with. My problem is that he does all theses thing behind me. Is this consider cheating ? Should I leave him?

4 months ago

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    • You are right to be angry and betrayed. Your fiance is doing things behind your back after you already told him you understood his kink. He still feels the need to hide it from you and if you are getting married you need to fully trust each other.

      I don't think it's time to call things off yet but you need to understand why he felt the need to hide his encounters and accounts from you. Then you two can decide what the next steps are. Dominatrix bookings aren't exactly cheap and you don't want to find he's spent a few hundred dollars from your savings...

    • If you want to make your relationship work, get involved with your partner and enjoy it by working together. If you don't work together, you will break apart.

    • You should learn to be a dominatrix.

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